By Brenda Grays, I Start Wondering Columnist
I lost my oldest (and last) brother on June 13. His death saddens me and makes me realize that we are only here for a season. I rejoice in knowing that he is no longer suffering, depressed or in pain; however, there still is a void. His passing has me considering what makes up a good life.
Last week I had a business trip to Orlando, Florida. As beautiful as Florida is, my mind was focused on my brother’s death. I had to push through and make the best of the trip. “One step at a time,” I kept telling myself. I knew once I returned home, I would have to attend my brother’s homegoing service.
As I travelled back home and looked at the beautiful blue sky and clouds, I could not help but think of my loved ones who have gone home to be with our Heavenly Father and wonder what they are doing up there. The great memories of my mother, father, brothers and many other relatives remind me that life really is short and we should not take another day for granted. We should live our lives to the fullest.
So how can we create a good life? We should smile more, be kind to one another. As I walked through the airport, I made it a point to smile at everyone that I could; it just felt good. God has given me another chance to get it right, to make a difference. It’s not all about me anyway. My brother’s death reminds me that I am not here to judge or criticize; instead, I need to have more love, compassion and kindness.
I also know that I need to continue to commit to regular self-care. Fortunately, I feel physically, mentally and spiritually strong. I’m thankful that my health continues to be good and that at the age of 60, I feel well. Still, I make sure that I eat a healthy diet (80% of the time) and work out 3-4 times per week.
Live Life Today
So my message in the wake of my brother’s funeral is to remind you to live life as if there is no tomorrow. Do things in moderation, take care of yourself, and trust and believe in your higher power. Don’t live as if there is no hope. Take time to really get to know who you are and what you stand for. At the end of the day, it’s about being grateful for what you have and not worrying about what you do not have. Trust me — your situation could be worse.
Always seek Peace. Life is challenging and people everywhere are looking for peace. God helps me balance things each day. He has bigger and better plans for us, more than we can ever imagine!
Enjoy a good life!