By Brenda Grays, I Start Wondering Columnist
Everyone who wanders is not lost. However, we may feel disoriented if we don’t regularly take time to reflect on our lives.
What really matters? As I reflect on that question, I am reminded of all that is going on in the world and within our local communities. Yes, it is easy to lose track of what’s important in today’s world. I believe the most important things in life aren’t things.
Making Our Place in the World
So what is important? First of all, we need to realize that we have a voice and a place. We belong and we need to continue to communicate effectively and demonstrate that our humanity is what really matters.
Have you ever had an “a-ha” moment when you finally understood the reality of a situation in which you’ve become entangled? And that situation isn’t at all how you initially perceived it? In these cases, I have found that life is short so we should forgive quickly. We should also learn to enjoy life today, because yesterday is gone and tomorrow may never come. It’s all a matter of perspective – and an attitude adjustment. I read a quote recently that said, “Breathe! It’s just a bad day, not a bad life.”
Taking Time to Reflect
Knowing that we only have this moment, I also believe that it’s time to take the wheel and shift our lives into overdrive instead of wallowing in present circumstances. With time and effort, each of us can create the life of which we dream.
With that said, I believe we also need to think about the impact that we have on others and take steps to help our family, friends, colleagues and communities shine. To successfully do that also means reflecting on what we currently can bring to the situation or relationship – and what we ultimately want to bring. If there’s a gap between those two, we need to find ways to learn and grow in our humanity. I personally have come to believe that I cannot enhance others until I enhance myself.
Toss the Baggage
Today’s world seems to have become one in which everyone is yelling at each other, whether across the table in loud restaurants or on Twitter. However, I’ve learned that sometimes you’ve just gotta stay silent because words can not explain what is going on in your mind and heart. In these trying times, it’s best to be yourself. Remember, other people don’t have to like you. Instead, we should focus our energy on figuring how how to get along with people wh0 have different backgrounds and perspectives.
I look forward to talking more about these ideas in future columns. Until then, I encourage to remember that the choices you make today impact your successes tomorrow. Happiness is yours to create and the baggage you carry shapes your attitude. Toss the baggage and lighten the load.